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Keep falling in love over the course of a lifetime.
Start having the kind of sex that makes you keep coming back for more.
Turn your relationship into your life's greatest work.
coaching for couples
I'm a Relationship & Sex coach for couples and I'm here to help you transform every aspect of your connection
and
intimacy.
Hi! I'm Sarah Olivia,
My work is trauma-informed and incorporates somatic experiencing, parts work and tantric practices. it will take you further and faster than talk therapy ever will.
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You love each other, you choose each other...but it's not feeling like enough.
Your sex life is a source of discontent rather than connection - whether it’s due to feeling like it's at the bottom of the priority list or because you don't truly enjoy the sex you're having.
You feel more like roommates than lovers.
Conflict keeps getting in the way of connection.
Romance feels like a far away memory and you don’t know how to find your way back.
You long for deeper intimacy, passion and joy in your partnership.
You’re ready to refresh and reignite your relationship but don’t know where to start.
Or maybe you just feel like there should be more to your relationship - more depth, more pleasure, more love.
maybe you're here because...
Most long-term couples face these challenges, but you don’t have to stay stuck here or throw away the partnership you've worked so hard to build.
You are not alone!
with my loving and expert support, your relationship can evolve
from Routine and stagnation to passion and aliveness
Your love story isn’t over - it’s ready for its next chapter.
from Distant and disconnected to intimate and deeply loving
from eggshells and conflict to true compassion and support
from disconnection to devotion
re-emerge
journey
through
Every long-term relationship moves through distinct stages.
Understanding these stages helps you navigate challenges with clarity and cultivate lasting love.
stages of love
relational
love
true
love
projectional
love
- Intense attraction, passion and excitement
- Everything feels effortless and deeply romantic
- Driven by chemistry and early attachment patterns
- Lasts anywhere from 6 months to 2 years
- We see our partner as the perfect and magical answer to our long held questions, they are everything we’ve longed for
Our relationship is meant to shift out of this stage, but the moment we do can often be the breaking point of a partnership or the point from which we feel we never recover the magic.
projectional love
(known as the honeymoon phase)
- Reality sets in, differences emerge and wounds surface
- The projection of perfection fades and we start seeing our partner as fallible
- Conflict arises, often around intimacy, unmet needs and communication
- Requires healing past wounds, conscious communication and self-regulation
- Many couples struggle or separate in this stage
This is where deep, transformational work begins, turning struggles into growth.
Relational love
- Moving beyond projection and disappointment into deep trust and devotion
- Creating a foundation of spiritual, emotional and sexual intimacy
- Experiencing love as a conscious choice and lifelong journey
- Partnership becomes a sacred space for healing and evolution
This is where your relationship becomes your greatest work of art.
true love
They get stuck in conflict or they drift into disconnection in an effort to avoid further rupture.
with the right support, you can move through the healing that needs to happen in order to step into a love that is deeper, more intimate and more fulfilling than you ever imagined.
No matter where you are, you can move forward together - with intention, support and love.
Most couples never reach the True Love Stage.
if you feel deeply connected and in love but you're struggling in your sex-life, keep reading...
what Really Fuels longterm Sexual satisfaction
We’ve all been told that a relationship should have an undeniable spark. That spontaneous, urgent, can’t-keep-our-hands-off-each-other passion that is supposed to last forever.
This is known as the Desire Imperative, the pervasive idea that intimacy should always be effortless. It is one of the biggest misconceptions about long-term sexual satisfaction. When we chase the Desire Imperative ideal, we set ourselves up for disappointment, because most people simply don’t experience desire that way.
So what actually keeps intimacy alive over the years? Research has shown that long-term sexual satisfaction emerges from three simple things:
1. You genuinely like each other.
Mutual respect, admiration and deep emotional connection create the foundation for sustained attraction. This gives you the grit required to figure out what you both actually enjoy sexually.
2. You agree that intimacy is worth prioritizing.
Spontaneity is nice, but scheduling time for pleasure, exploration and connection is what gives a couple's sex life longevity. Passion and pleasure isn’t something that just happens - it’s something you cultivate.
3. You truly enjoy the intimacy you’re having.
This means open communication, curiosity and a commitment to pleasure - no settling, no pretending and definitely no just “getting it over with.”
When couples stop obsessing over spontaneous desire and instead focus on these aspects, they experience intimacy that is orgasmic, light-hearted and ever evolving. by taking back control over your sex-life, you are free from the shame of ‘low libido’ or lack of desire.
This is the work we do together - helping you move past outdated sex narratives and into a relationship where pleasure and connection continue to evolve and expand over time.
The truth about love and partnership
The quality of your relationship shapes the quality of your life. When your relationship is thriving, every part of your life feels more open, vibrant and whole.
Imagine waking up every morning feeling deeply connected, supported and wanted... a love that feels both safe and deeply intriguing... knowing without a doubt that you are truly seen, held and cherished.
This is the transformation available to you.
- Learning to express your needs, desires and boundaries with love and authenticity.
- Communication tools are actively facilitated to allow deep truth and honesty to arise without causing further pain, misunderstanding and rupture.
- These tools are lifelong aids for repairing conflict.
Communication
- Understanding what’s truly happening in your relationship and what needs to shift.
- Understanding each other's needs and desires in the relationship.
- This goes much deeper than just talking about who did or said what.
Clarity
Transforming your relationship requires a multidimensional approach that goes far beyond just talking about what's going wrong, we will focus on:
Connection
- Rebuilding emotional intimacy and trust so you feel deeply bonded.
- This happens predominantly through powerful tantric connection practices which I will guide you through and you will then be able to practice regularly between sessions.
- Connection practices are the tools you will carry forward to keep falling in love over a lifetime.
Deep Healing
- The inner child's sense of love, safety and belonging.
- Behaviour patterns that don't serve the health of the relationship
- Beliefs that shape ability to open fully to intimacy.
- Discovering the pleasure of being fully present in your body.
- Rewriting your sexual narrative in a way that suits you both.
- Unashamedly exploring your desires with your partner.
- Orgasmic and pleasure expansion techniques.
Sexual Adventure
This work is about creating a foundation for love that lasts a lifetime. I humbly believe, and it is my lived experience, that it’s the single most rewarding journey you will ever embark on.
Side effects of coaching may include
more, better and longer orgasms
Deeper emotional and spiritual connection
Increased self-worth and confidence
Love isn’t just something you feel. it’s something you are.
A newfound sense of aliveness, wholeness and joy
Feeling more attractive, desirable and magnetic
investment
£640
monthly
there is A minimum commitment of 4 months in order to truly shift your relationship.
- 2 x 75 min couple sessions
- 2 x 75 min individual sessions
This is an investment in the love and life you desire and it reflects the commitment required from both of you as well as the power of the container I create.
Sex, Love and Relationship Coach - The tantric institute of integrated sexuality
300 Hour Breathwork and Vinyasa Yoga Training - The Vinyasa People
200 Hour Tantra Hatha Yoga Training - Zuna Yoga
Hormonal Health Coach - Institute Integrative Nutrition
Holistic Health Coach - Institute Integrative Nutrition
my qualifications
I have coached, taught and facilitated for hundreds of clients and I know how to powerfully hold space for you as you learn to heal yourself.
I have undergone one of the most advanced trainings in sexuality, relationships and profound belief and behaviour shifts available on the planet.
I believe that you are the expert on you. You will have the deciding word at every step of your journey and I never put myself on a pedestal over my clients. I support my clients with a steady, calm and loving presence.
The style I work in allows for my clients to express themselves fully and openly with zero fear of judgement.
I am thoroughly committed to continuously learning and evolving in my own journey, in how I work and what I offer.
Why work with me?
frequently asked questions
frequently asked questions
Outside of our coaching sessions, I will provide recorded practices where relevant as well as offering weekly 'office hours' where you can call me with any questions or challenges between sessions.
What else do you provide to support our journey?
04.
It's to be expected that one or both or us will take holiday and one or both of us will be ill. Don't worry, you'll get all of your coaching sessions, as long as you use them within the agreed upon timeframe.
If you decide weekly sessions are too much, we will switch to fortnightly and the program agreement and length will be adjusted.
what if we miss a weekly session?
03.
While we will have a contract committing to the full length of the program, if we agree that for whatever reason it’s not right for us to continue working together, you’ll only need to pay for the pro-rata share of the work we’ve done together.
What if we join the program and we realise it’s not for us?
02.
While talking is important, my work goes deeper than most talk therapy or coaching — into the body, the nervous system and the unconscious patterns that shape your relationship.
If you are suffering from severe mental health issues, I require that my clients are working with a trauma specialist
Why shouldn't we just go to therapy?
01.
Like most therapists, I work in the daytime on weekdays. I recommend that clients coordinate a day working at home together and block off the time for our session.
what are your working hours for sessions?
